Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston
Welcome to All About Breaking Up. Inside these pages, you’ll find everything that you need to know about intimate and personal relationships.
You’ll find a little bit of everything from Breaking Up to Making Up and everything in between.
Ideally, we’re here to help you during these troubled times, in whatever way we can. Relationships can be turbulent things especially in these trying times, and while we don’t like to see people “Breaking Up,” sometimes its the best thing that can happen.
And sometimes not.
We all know that breaking up isn’t fun — but what can YOU do to improve your relationship right now?
Good Relationships Don’t Just Happen
Everything in this life takes maintenance. Whether it be your car, your house, your job, your body — in order for things to be in good working order — you need to pay attention and take care of things.
This applies to all your relationships as well.
Relationships require work. They require consciousness. They require that YOU BE awake, aware, and paying attention to what is going on.
The single most important thing you can do in any relationship is to…
Take Responsibility for Yourself
People don’t seem to understand that no one else can make you happy or unhappy.
Feelings are something that are experienced within. Just like getting angry or any other emotion you may experience. There is no one but you living inside of you and only YOU determine the way that you feel.
If you say to someone “you made me feel…” you are placing blame, you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings.
No one has the ability to make you feel anything. You choose how you feel. You choose how you respond. You choose to be who you are.
Everyone has This Same Choice
To be involved in a loving and supportive relationship means that you come to the table, not only fully responsible for yourself, but loving yourself fully.
When you learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. Since blaming one’s partner for one’s own unhappiness is the number one cause of relationship problems, learning how to take loving care of yourself is vital to a good relationship.
Treat Your Partner with Kindness, Acceptance and Compassion
To be happy in life, treat others the way YOU want to be treated. We all desire to be seen and accepted for who we are. True love is unconditional. If you love yourself unconditionally, then you will be able to fully love your partner unconditionally.
And when you do, kindness and compassion become second nature to you.
While there are no guarantees in life for anything, if you are consistently kind and compassionate, more than likely you will receive that in return.
Being kind to others does not mean you become a doormat and sacrifice yourself.
Learn How to Handle Conflict
You have two choices when it comes to handling conflict. You can react or act. If you react – you could be inflaming the situation. If you act, you can be open to learn more about yourself and the other person. If you react you may secretly be trying to win or control the situation.
The truth of the matter is you have no control over how anyone else behaves or feels. The ONLY control you EVER have is how you behave or feel. Keep this in mind when dealing with conflict in your relationship.
Create Special Time to Be Together
When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. After a few years of marriage, people get busy and they let the special time together disappear into the myriad of responsibilities. Relationships need time to thrive. It is vitally important to set aside specific times to be together – to talk, play, make love. Intimacy cannot be maintained without time together.
Try Appreciation Instead of Complaints
Positive energy flows between two people when there is an “attitude of gratitude.” Constant complaints creates a heavy, negative energy, which is not fun to be around. Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Complaints create stress, while gratitude creates inner peace, so gratitude creates not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.
Learn How to Have Fun and Play with your Partner
Between two consenting adults, the sky is the limit on what you want to do together to have fun. Your relationship will flourish when you laugh with your partner, take time to play together and when you welcome humor to your relationship.
You will be amazed how much these key points can have an impact on your relationship if you just pay attention.
The Magic of Making Up
If you have found yourself in a relationship nightmare where your partner has asked you to leave and you don’t want to do that, then WATCH THIS NOW WHILE THERE STILL MAY BE TIME!
My good friend TW (Dub) Jackson has put together this AWESOME program that will HELP YOU get back together with your ex (if you seriously want to and follow the programs tenets and instructions).
I know how you feel, I’ve felt the same way, it’s hard when you’re in the process of a break-up, by like the Neil Sedaka song, wouldn’t you rather be making up instead? Turn the page to discover the Magic of Making Up.
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